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Guard your Heart Prv 4:23

Many times among friends we tell each other “Guard your heart.”  Not so long ago, I recently said this statement to a dear friend of mine.  However after we ended the conversation, I began asking myself “What if he doesn’t know what guard your heart means?”.  I started praying in regards to this subject because I realized that I didn’t know what it meant either.

Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it.” Proverbs 4:23.  This verse can mean many things depending on the situation you currently are now experiencing (dating, friendships, television shows, music, conversations, etc.).  For now, I will concentrate on dating.  I will share some points I have learned on how to guard my own heart in a the dating world as a Christian.

First:  “Is this the right time?” Are you emotionally healthy?  Has your heart healed from previous relationships?  Are you currently in sync with God’s desires?  Are there any loose ends you must work in you first?  Do you enjoy being single?

Second:  “Are they Christian?”.  Paul states “Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness?”  2 Corinthians 6:14.  It 's hard to date someone who is not currently following Jesus while you are.  Eventually, you two will pull different directions, and the relationship will explode.  If the other person is not in the right time to receive your light, the relationship will become a lonely place for both of you. 

Third:  “Can you see yourself with this person for the rest of your life?”.  When a Christian initiates a relationship, it is with the purpose of marriage.  Marriage is not for a couple of years or the next decade.  Marriage is for the rest of your life, do you want to grow old together?   Will this person be your primary relationship, the one who you will enjoy the rest of your life with?  

This person will be the one who will get to know you better than anyone else, even your mother.  Do you both have a sense of your calling?  Marriage is not about you two, but the kingdom of God and the marriage should be based on that calling.  Ladies and Gentlemen don’t move forward in a relationship if the other person does not have a sense of their calling in the Kingdom of God. 

Fourth:  Be true to yourself.  Be wise in making the right choices and examine your heart before moving forward in a relationship.  Are your reasons for pursuing a relationship healthy ones or are you just eager to have a girlfriend/boyfriend.  Have friends who are faithful to you and help you guard your heart.  Seek God’s face on a daily basis.  If the person begins to be the primary focus of your day, where are you leaving God?

In a dating situation, guarding our heart doesn’t mean to lock it up and never give it away.  

It is time for God to provide you with wisdom on making the right choices.  Perhaps you can’t choose who you fall in love with.  But you do have the option of who you spend your time with.  Guard your heart from those intruders that shouldn’t be in your mindor your heart.  God is not willing to share the loveseat of your heart.  Refocus your mind back to Jesus by worship, reading the word and prayer.  
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