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Impatient To Unfold Your Future

 By: Rigoberto Cambray

“So I really like this girl and well I have no clue if she likes me.” How many times have we pondered on these words ourselves? Someone close to you can simply add, “Well dude, just ask her if she likes you!” Yes, being straight forward is good and you will know: 1) If that person likes you back or 2) You get heartbroken and move on.

However, all these stressors can indeed cause frustration, anxiety and oftentimes fear would want to sneak in by saying, “You would never find that special someone,” “you’re not worthy,” “you are this and you are that.” Please know your worth and value before God when you hear these lies.

Nonetheless, be conscious that there might be a few areas in your personal life where you might need to do a little work & growing before you get into a healthy dating relationship.
These are a few areas I personally think a Christian should consider and be aware of:

Impatient To Unfold Your Future
Have you ever experienced anxious thoughts that have hold you back from living in the “here-and-now”? I assume that we all have been robbed away from living in the present.

·     If so, is time we surrender our goals, dreams, and ambitions to God—and rest in the thought that God will help us reach them with no need of extra-worry. We must rest in the thought that we will reach our finish-line with God’s comforting peace.  

·     When was the last time we have solved our problems by extreme worry? Exactly.    

Unresolved Issues
(manifested in different forms: hostility, isolation, insecurity, etc.). You probably went through a few horrible experiences and we all cope differently—but oftentimes we tend to build a huge defensive wall with a warning sign that says: “BACK OFF!”

  • Please work on knowing that being cautious is okay but overly-cautious is not healthy in any way.

·         Scripture tell us that we must take captive every thought that is not pleasing to God (“…taking every thought captive to obey Christ,” 2 Corinthians 10:5b).

·         That means that in prayer we ought to seek for those thoughts and actions that make us emotionally unstable and surrender it to God. 

         Also, you may be unconsciously triggered by past close relationships that have damaged you emotionally. These mixtures of emotions/feelings tend to come back and manifest back in your new relationships in different ways. As crazy as it sounds, our unconscious actions most of the times are unpredictable.
Scripture says that we must discern our thoughts and actions, for our God is not the author of confusion but of peace (1 Corinthians 14:33)

God has called us so that we can be close to Him. Christ sacrifice was to bring humanity closer to God by grace and not works (that’s what the New Covenant is all about = relationship with God Almighty through the work of Jesus and the Holy Spirit). 

Our relationship with God and others is important. We should aim in staying connected with those who are going to edify our lives and bring us closer to our relational God.  

Let us always be led by God’s Spirit. Our past or future should not determine the here-and-now. Live the present with overflow of God’s love, wisdom, and presence!
“Keep yourselves in the love of God…” (Jude 1:21a)

 Rigoberto Cambray who goes by Rigo,  is a strong and devoted believer of Christ and feels a passionate burden to spread the Gospel of Christ to the world through any media possible and share what God has done in his life.  He enjoys a good read, snowboarding and a good cup of coffee at Starbucks.  Connect with Rigo:
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